Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Uplevel Your Conversation By La'Keisha Gray-Sewell



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To close out this Move Beyond the Block series, I want to talk about our talk. How many of us are truly mindful of our conversations...the tone and subject matter? Now we all know how much we rely on conversation to express our thoughts and convey our outlook. But do we ever internally gauge if our conversation is a cause of delight or disappointment?

 How often do we reflect whether or not our conversation results in elevation or stagnation?

Why is this an important question to ask? 


For starters, after our initial physical impression of someone, the first words we hear from them determines our level of engagement. It can be fascinating or a major disappointment. Just think back on someone whose physical demeanor commanded your attention, yet when they began to talk, their conversation was so mundane and mediocre that you found yourself struggling to pay attention.

Or what about those of us whose conversation is rooted in limiting thoughts? The subject matter is embryonic in nature. These conversations don’t allow for exploring ideas, raising awareness or offering new information and resources. In fact, on the contrary, you leave the conversation feeling weighed down by depressing thoughts, confronted by problems without solutions, and an overwhelming sense of wasted time. What a draining experience.

Then there are the conversations dripping with sarcasm and petty observations. Tongues laced with commentary that seeks to shame, exploit, and cast an overall air of negativity. It’s a nervous interaction where those engaged spend much of the conversation in a defensive stance or trying to find neutral ground.  This type of exchange is exhausting and can cost us opportunities and relationships. Not to mention it can be seriously toxic to our well being causing physical manifestations of stress such as headaches, high blood pressure, or nervous stomach to name a few.

Still, there are those conversations that do empower, seal deals and forge new bonds. In these type of conversations, people are endeared to the speaker and feel their very life is changed for the better. A person whose conversation affects change is a respected voice of influence. People pay attention when they speak. Their very conversation has capital. It liberates...

I don’t know about you, but I certainly believe there is power in the tongue. Our words speak our desires to the universe. So whether our conversation is limited to other people and their conditions, spreads negativity, or if it affirms, challenges thought, or informs, our reality will reflect it. 

Are you growing? Do others learn from you? Do you attract opportunities via your conversation? Do others seek you out for conversation? Does your reality say you need to uplevel your conversation?

I recently heard something that helped me gauge and redirect my own conversations. A wise teacher asked, “would you talk to God the way you talk to yourself and others?”
                                                                     

This question alone should spark our next conversation.     



To Learn more about La'Keisha via her website GirlsLikeMeProject.org and follow her on Twitter @MrsGirlsLikeMe         

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