Monday, November 11, 2019

Have Fun, But Don’t Get Fired: Tips On Surviving The Office Holiday Party by Jacqueline Miller

In case you didn’t get the memo, it’s not that kind of party.
The term “party” is almost a bit misleading. Different rules and expectations apply when it’s the office party vs. a social event with friends or family members.
With an increasing number of public allegations of sexual assaults being reported beginning with Harvey Weinstein accusers, and more recently Cuba Gooding Jr., it behooves everyone to revisit, refresh and reacquaint themselves with what is considered appropriate social behavior.
The following five tips may prove helpful in minimizing any regrettable incidents, especially during the holiday party season:

1. Know in advance whether attendance at the event is optional or required. Even if it’s the former, I always recommend showing up, if only for a few minutes. Your boss or your colleagues may feel as if you are not a team player, that you don’t view them, your department, etc. as important if you are noticeably absent. 
2. Attire for the office party is usually not the same as that for the nightclub. You want to be appropriately dressed for the occasion and not the topic of discussion in the office the next morning. Sis, be mindful of too much cleavage. Yes, it’s 2019 and yes, cleavage is beautiful, but it’s not considered professional for most business functions. If you’re not accustomed to walking in them, now is probably not the time to wear your never-been-worn six-inch red bottoms. One slip and fall and your night will be a wrap. 
3. If there is dancing, remember that yours should take place on the dance floor, not on top of the bar, on the window ledge or any other “special” places. Please keep your dance moves respectful, by office party standards. Humping, grinding and twerking should probably not be a part of your repertoire. Get a room.
4. If a sit-down dinner is to be served, it helps to brush up on your knowledge of a proper table setting. Nothing is more embarrassing than being too afraid to begin the meal because you don’t know which water glass is yours, or which fork to use first. 
5. To say that you should drink responsibly is an understatement. Know your limits. You want to be sober in order to get yourself home safely, no matter the mode of transportation. However, you also want to be able to remember the night’s event the next morning.

Just in case you need more reminders, I’ve compiled a few key do’s and don’t’s:
  • Don’t use the event as your office version of speed dating or Flirting (within reason) and socializing are fine. However, it should not be evident to all who are present that you are desperately looking to find your future husband, wife or hookup.
  • While networking in the business arena is commonplace, don’t be excessive with conversations about work. i.e., why you deserve a raise, why it’s not fair that Bob or Monique got a promotion, etc. People are there to enjoy the party, not to be a part of your venting session and most attendees really want a break from day-to-day work conversation.
  • Don’t violate company policy. If the company’s policy states, “Employees Only Invited”- abide by it. Don’t think you’re going to go unnoticed bringing a plus one. Someone always notices.

  • Avoid office gossip. Period. 
  • Do mingle and become familiar with people whom you either don’t know very well or don’t get to socialize with often. I once witnessed an employee sitting outside of the ballroom reading a book. Not recommended behavior. 
  • Do refrain from taking photos of colleagues for the sole purpose of embarrassing them on social media. Many companies now have policies forbidding the use of cameras at company functions for this very reason.
Comedian Jeff Foxworthy said it best, “You moon the wrong person at an office party and suddenly you’re not ‘professional’ any more.”
The venue for your office party is not Vegas, and what happens there is likely not going to stay there.
Across America, some folks are likely going to lose their jobs because of their behavior at this year’s holiday party. To all the high-achievers of the world, take heed and do all things necessary to ensure that you aren’t one of them.
Happy holiday!

Jacqueline Miller is a certified life coach, speaker, author, grief support facilitator, writer and career and leadership consultant for working moms. A former senior human resources executive, she is also skilled in helping leading-edge organizations to boost their success factor, by delivering essential business and soft skills training workshops, designed to cultivate a workforce of high-performing talent.

Follow her on Twitter @mogulmomdujour

Wednesday, November 6, 2019

Here’s Why You May Have Been Unfriended, Blocked Or Simply Ignored On Social Media by Jacqueline Miller

Hey, BOSS lady! Looking to maximize your social media relationships, but find yourself being unfriended, blocked, or simply ignored? If the answer is “YES,” to both, then I encourage you to continue reading. I’ve compiled some recommended dos and don’ts aka social media etiquette, to assist you when navigating and networking online:
Your first connection with someone on social media SHOULD NOT involve:
1. A SALES PITCH, A REQUEST FOR A DONATION OR ANY TYPE OF SOLICITATION. Make an effort to get to know the individual somewhat before expecting them to support one of your initiatives or make a purchase.
2. A REQUEST FOR A “PICK YOUR BRAIN SESSION.” Success requires sacrifice. The knowledge that you want to pick from an entrepreneur’s brain (usually for free), probably cost that individual a hefty price to acquire. Respect the hustle and take measures to establish a genuine connection before asking for valuable information, especially that which you expect to receive at no or minimal cost.
3. REPETITIVE, INTRUSIVE BEHAVIORS. Including but not limited to daily casual messenger/direct message contact. Examples would include, sending messages requesting that something is forwarded for good luck, to 10 of your friends, etc., adding people to groups without consent, or tagging people in posts unnecessarily. If you have never clicked “like” or commented on someone’s post, how can you consider it OK to tag him or her in a post about your upcoming project or event?
Regardless of your relationship with an individual or the longevity of your connection, you SHOULD consider the following:
1. DO INTERACT, SHARE, LIKE, AND/OR COMMENT ON THEIR POSTS PERIODICALLY. If your contact only occurs when you need something from a person, do not be surprised if you hear crickets in response to your requests for assistance.
2. BE OF SERVICE, BEFORE EXPECTING TO RECEIVE IT. Make referrals and initiate introductions of like-minded people. However, be sure to make contact with the individuals separately to ask for their permission first. For a variety of reasons, not everyone may be open to the idea. Share relevant information that may be of use to your connections. However, do keep in mind that just because it’s of interest to you does not make it of interest to someone else. This practice of sharing is most effective when you actually follow the individual on social media, observe their posted content, and know what actually may interest them.
3. SEND A NOTE OF THANKS FOR A CONNECTION. Taking 10 seconds to do this is recommended, especially if you are the individual initiating the contact and have hopes of doing business with them in the future.
All healthy relationships require nurturing, whether on or offline. Stop treating social media like speed dating. “Hit it and quit it” interactions can be costly. The more professional you are in your communication with people, the more value your “social media currency” will become. The more valuable your “social media currency” is, the more likely your chances of establishing collaborative business relationships and the more likely you won’t be one of the friends deleted when an influencer’s maximum friends’ connection number has been reached.
Jacqueline Miller is a certified life coach, speaker, author, grief support facilitator, writer and career and leadership consultant for working moms. A former senior human resources executive, she is also skilled in helping leading-edge organizations to boost their success factor, by delivering essential business and soft skills training workshops, designed to cultivate a workforce of high-performing talent.

Tuesday, November 5, 2019

Entrepreneurship turns us into being a BOSS by Deborah Allen

Entrepreneurship - the activity of setting up a business or businesses, taking on financial risks in the hope of profit. Entrepreneurship turns us into being a BOSS. It requires that you bring your boss mentality forward and build. Entrepreneurship is definitely not for the faint-hearted. Many people do not understand the work, finances, sacrifice, resources, and tenacity it takes to start and grow a business. Most importantly you must be business minded, as well as boss minded. Your mindset is everything as you plan, start, nurture and develop your business. As an entrepreneur, you are the vision for the business. It’s detrimental that you know the plan and mission for the business. Everything the company is, are going to be, will be birthed from the plan you have for it. This is a huge undertaking and should be taken on with great thought and consideration. It’s easy to say you are the boss but to take full ownership of everything that happens in your business can be unsettling. You are the business and most likely you will be the one to put most of the capital into it. The boss must be a leader and lead by example. By being the boss you set the pulse for the business. I truly believe that leaders lead at all times. As you lead with wisdom your staff will follow. As a boss you must operate to be successful for yourself and the staff that is depending on you to provide employment. Boss build a solid team around you. Be a great boss.
Business is definitely a huge risk that comes with uncertainty. When you become an entrepreneur you must boss all the way up. Be willing and able to make the hard decisions that comes from being the leader. Do not push your responsibility off on others for you are the brand of your business. Entrepreneurship can and does come with loss & struggles. Most of the time when starting off there is no profit. Boss, it can also cost you everything. As the boss, you take the greatest risk of all. Know if there is no pain no glory. As the boss, the financial responsibility lies with you ultimately. The boss is responsible to pay the staff and taxes on the business. As the boss, you must pay your staff even if you do not get paid. There are many businesses that start but close within the first three years of opening. Operating capital can wipe out boss finances. But work the vision you have boss. Walk the process out. Boss be confident and your confidence will inspire your staff and others around you.

Entrepreneurship definitely requires you to be responsible.  Boss make sure you lead with integrity. Be honorable and steady. People put their lives as well as their family lives in your hands. Bosses walk your business plans out. Be courageous and lead without fear & be the boss.

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Twitter: @ladydeballen