It's Bigger Than You By Melissa Kimble

In business and in life sometimes we can get caught up in how everything affects us. On a day to day basis, we worry about our time, our resources, how this project will turn out, our goals and deadlines - alot of things that involve I, me, my, or mine.

But what if we approached life with the idea that a majority of things that we go through and deal with have nothing to do with us? What if the purpose of everything you went through was to benefit the next person - how would that change your perspective?

Recently I have encountered several losses and at first glance I was discouraged. How would these setbacks make me look as a business woman? Would I be embarrassed? Would people think less of me? How could I explain my shortcomings?

I. Me. My. Mine.

How easy it is to get caught up in the idea of self. But life is not about you. It's bigger than you. At second glance, I realized that these setbacks would only make me look strong because I overcame them and that strength would allow me to help someone else get through the same struggles I've faced. One of the most important things we can do is to help the next person. That action keeps us connected, that connection strengthens our communities, and that strength helps conquer the things we cannot face alone.

So the next time you're faced with opposition, instead of focusing on how it will make you look, try to see how you can use this lesson to help the next person. You'll be surprised at how inspired you will.become.

Melissa Kimble is an Engagement Strategist and the owner of The 3178 Agency and My Creative Connection. Follow her on Twitter @Melissa_Kimble and learn more about her work at www.the3178agency.com.

7 Business Wardrobe Essentials when you are over 25 and on a budget By Kim Turner

“What you wear is how you present yourself to the world, especially today, when human contacts are so quick. Fashion is instant language.”

—Miuccia Prada

1. A black dress that is versatile enough that you can take it from the office to an after-work affair. Try a sheath dress. Paired with a cardigan or blazer it is work-appropriate, and without that top layer and paired with jewelry it is perfect for an after 5 cocktail party.

2. You might think you don’t need a suit since your office is business casual but when you want to make a power move during your next presentation, nothing adds credibility like a woman in a power suit. Go for blue, black or grey and it will work in the office as well as for your next interview, because a woman with that much power is definitely on the move.

3. Choose bottoms that have versatility and style but if you want them to last past one season, avoid buying trendy options -- at least until you have the basics covered. These classic colors paired with various tops will get you tons of looks: navy, brown, black, charcoal and tan. P.S. Avoid wearing jeans to work unless you just don’t care.

4. Unfortunately, it has to be said "DO NOT wear halters, deep V-necks, sheer blouses, racer-backs and anything showing midriff into the office. Start with a few basic button-downs and a gorgeous blouse for a dressier look.

5. Blazers, vests and sweaters are all considered third layers. Look for pieces that are structured to give you a more polished look for the office.

6. I suggest a bag that holds your computer and all of your other items. It could be a back pack or leather carry-all. Just don’t go for the college backpack as those days are well behind you.

7. If you can only afford one pair of shoes, buy black pumps. The heel should be the height that is best for you, so if you only need one inch that’s great, but don’t do more than four inches. Spend as much as you can on great shoes. They will last for a long time as long as you take care of them (that means find a good cobbler).

For more fashion tips follow Kim Turner on Twitter @FashionCents, visit her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/pages/fashioncents/180402097080, and check out her website at www.fashioncents.tv

Choose Your Company and Friends Wisely By Dr. Kamala L. Uzzell

 The people with whom you choose to spend your time are a reflection of you.  As the saying goes -  “Birds of a feather flock together.”  This may or may not be true in all relationships, but what IS true is that many people believe it.  Value the brand that you have created for yourself.  Value the work that you have put into making a good name for yourself in personal and professional circles.  Don’t choose friends who will destroy your hard work.  Choose friends who will lift you up and motivate you to be the best you that you can be!

Surround yourself with people who are doing things and going places.  Those with no goals will only hold you back and bring you down with them.  Recognize the difference between assets and liabilities (as bad as that might sound) when it comes to friends and associates.  Are they improving your life or destroying your brand?  Are they adding some form of value to your life or are they taking away and draining the joy and promise from it?

Remember – the people who you are around can either lift you up or drag you down.  They can destroy everything that you've spent so much time building.  Who deserves to be in your circle? It’s your choice.  Choose wisely.

Check back every month to learn more from Dr. Kamala about Mental Health and  get some life coaching tips. Follow Dr. Kamala on twitter @drkamalauzzell and learn more about her services at http://about.me/drkamalauzzell