Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Don't Trip, It's only Change by Michelle Small


I cannot get out of this sweater fast enough…yes, it is hot in here!  You don’t feel that? Oh, it's just me?  Another hot flash.  Stop tripping, it is just the Change. 

What exactly is a hot flash?  The exact cause may not be known, but science says that it happens when our reproductive hormones and our body's thermostat (hypothalamus), become more sensitive to slight changes in body temperature. 

Wow…It seems my body is declaring the changes we see in this world today--And it is HOT! 
The Boomers, Busters,  Gen-X and Millennials: We all fit on the corporate body of America and the world, and wherever we sit on the timeline of life, one thing is certain…Change! 
It is the Change we like, and the Change we don’t.  As a buster myself, I often fought with my Gen-X daughter to get a good “corporate” job.  Build that pension...maintain life insurance…GROW UP!!!! 

What took me a while to see is she had grown up, but things had changed.  Gen-X was the generation that if they could not find a way in what the buster established, then they would make a way--And make a way she did! 

Many of the Gen-X billionaires are examples of those that found their own way:  Facebook's Mark Zuckerberg, Computer maker Michael Dell, Yahoo's Jerry Yang, and Google's Larry Page and Sergey Brin. 

Wait…another hot flash!  Change!!! 

Enter in the Millennial, who hate to be labeled that way! 


If Millennials don’t like what the establishment (usually a boomer or buster) have set in motion, then they will change it!  That is what you are supposed to do, right?  Protest right? It worked before so it will work again, right? Let’s do it big, do it fast, and be done! So, why is it not working? Why aren’t the protests working? 
Well, they are protesting against the boomers, and those old hormones don’t die easily.
Who can help them, show them?  Gen-X could definitely be that bridge for change, but wait, they already found their own way.  

Yep...another hot flash! This one is a little longer and a lot bigger. Change. 

Millennials ~ Tribes over Traditions that is their mantra! 

Who raised them? Where did this come from?  Is it because a two parent traditional family was not the norm, so they created their own.  
Now, these Millennial families/tribes have crossed the traditional boundaries of culture, race, gender, and religion.  We will now see a white protestant woman protesting with signs that say “black lives matter” because that is her family…her tribe. 
Yes, change has happened, and one thing that is constant is change! 

For the last 8 years, we have had an African-American president that represented this country and his people with grace and dignity.  Eight years ago there was a 16-year-old boy or girl who is now 8 years older.  Their voice, their opinions, and their truth will set the stage for what is next.  But don’t trip…It’s only Change. 

Learn more about Michelle via her website at Courageousmi.com and follow her on Twitter @courageousmi

"Time Management / Career / Leadership" by Pat E.Perkins

Do you often find yourself overwhelmed by other people’s requests? Do you find yourself completely captivated by your phone? Have you ever used the excuse, “I just don’t have enough time in the day”? 

In today’s world, it’s too easy to waste time by distracting emails, text messages and endless social media posts. Time is one of our greatest resources. In fact, it is a gift not to be wasted or mindlessly thrown away. 
Here are seven success and time mastery tips to help you stay focused and productive on what matters most to you. Since we all have the same 24 hours in a day, put your primary focus on what you can master, your own time: 

  1. Start with an important question: “What is my intention for the day?” Your intention is something you plan to be and/or have today that if you fulfill on this would reap you the greatest return on investment of your time and attention. 
  1. Clarify your purpose: Why is this intention most important for me today? The answer to this question can provide the motivation you require to carry you through the day. A purpose is an emotional driving force. 
  1. Set your priority: Did you see I didn’t say priorities for the day? Yes, having a list of high value, high return actions to accomplish is important. However, this can turn into just a To Do list of items to check off and often are the very reason for overwhelm and lack of follow through. Choose one thing, one priority that if fulfilled would provide the greatest return on your time and attention right now. Then, choose the next one thing and so on until you’ve accomplished your most important actions that are congruent to your intention. 
  1. Schedule your priority: Put your priority, commitments and recurring activities in existence in your calendar as non-negotiable. One of the ways we allow other people to take our time is because we haven’t already allocated it to space on our calendar. Be aware of the time you do have as well as the time you do not. 
  1. Establish clear deadlines: Appropriately estimate the work effort associated with each activity you are committed to accomplishing. I recommending working in time blocks of 30, 60 or 90 minutes at a time. This concentrated focus will allow you to get real about the amount of time it takes to bring a task to completion. We often underestimate what there is to do and handle and then rush to get it done. The anxiety associated with this behavior can be avoided by setting deadlines and sticking to them. 
  1. Learn to Say No: No is a complete sentence! You may have heard this before, but do you believe it. Women tend to desire to say Yes to most if not every request. We don’t want to let others down or look bad. Honestly, it’s the Superwoman syndrome in full effect. We want to be perceived as the one who can do it all. Give that up! When you have a full and successful life, people will respect your time. Remember, we teach people how to treat us and how to respect our time. 
  1. Celebrate your accomplishments: Are you someone who just moves from one project to another, from task to another and from request to request without stopping? If so, consider when was the last time you acknowledged yourself for the accomplishments of the day. Incorporate an Accomplishment Journal, Jar or jotter to capture your greatness and appreciation for a job well done. This will serve you when something goes awry and you need to remember who and whose you are. Reading a note you previously captured will certainly spark a memory and if nothing else, put a smile on your face to give you the determination to keep advancing! 

The bottom line: Remember, you own how you invest your time, but more importantly, you must be responsible for mastering your greatest resource. Time is precious, don’t waste it. 

“Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of.  One (wo)man gets only a week’s value out of a year while another (wo)man gets a full year’s value out of a week.” ~Charles Richards 

Learn more about Pat via her website PatEPerkins.com and follow her on Twitter @PatEPerkins

"Who’s in Control?" by Sylvia Duncan

Last month, I told you that hopelessness is a dream killer and can manifest and be reflected in how you dress, how you move and most importantly, what you say.  And, although I used impoverished communities as a hub for where hopelessness is more prevalent, the truth is, hopelessness can rear its ugly head in even the most prominent communities, and with those who think they have it “all together”. 

This month, I want to talk about the source of hopelessness.  Where does this dream killer originate?  What are some of the signs you should look for to determine if you are in this life destructive state?  To do that, first I want to share a little of my history.  I grew up in a violent atmosphere, witnessing the physical abuse of my mother.  It was when I became an adult that I realized I had experienced something ‘life altering’.  When I came to that realization, as I looked back over my life, I saw that I tried to ignore the pains of the past, by telling myself, “what is past is past”.  Unaware however, that the “residue” of what was left behind after the wake of the violence, was just as destructive as the violence itself; low self-esteem, lack of confidence and fear.  I never felt good enough, smart enough or capable enough to achieve success or happiness.  

Do you see yourself here?  Instead of stepping out in faith, you shrink back in fear.  Instead of acting with confidence, you feel that you don’t have what it takes, that you’re not “good enough”, not “smart enough”, not “whatever” enough.  It really doesn’t matter, what matters is that you understand that hopelessness is fed by these self-limiting thoughts and behaviors.  Your thoughts are the source.  The more you entertain thoughts that tell you that you can’t do something or you’re not worthy or capable, the more you view yourself as “less than” or feel shame because of something from your past, the more you feed the leech of hopelessness.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand that there are times when you may need a little professional help to move past these self-limiting behaviors and thoughts.  And, if that’s you, then let me encourage you to seek the help of a professional, starting with your personal physician.  However, there are times when you just need a little reminder that you hold the power within you to take back control of your life.

Take Back Control!

Taking back your control will require several action steps, but first you must determine whether you are being held captive by this dream killer.  Below are three questions to help you determine if hopelessness has a hold on your life:

1. Do you feel you’ve missed Gods will for your life? 
2. Are you regularly experiencing the feeling of being held captive by self-defeating thoughts and behaviors?
3. Do you regularly spend time reliving the pain from the past?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, it’s time to take back control of your life. Next month, we’ll discuss the process of freeing yourself from the grips of hopelessness to live a happy and whole life.

Until next time,

Always live with purpose…on purpose.

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How To Get Your Groove Back In the Job Market by Charlene Rhinehart

You used to be a hot commodity on the job scene; you didn’t have to work
that hard to sell your best career assets because jobs were plentiful, even 
for those who didn’t have fancy degrees behind their name. But if you’ve 
stopped investing in yourself and failed to market your career skills, you’ll 
probably just become an afterthought standing next to the hyper energized, 
tech savvy millennials who are monopolizing the workforce with their presence.

But don’t fret. You still have tons of experience and wisdom that works in 
your favor. You just have to use what you possess in order to create the 
career experience that you want. 

Here are 3 ways to get your groove back in the job market when you 
haven’t searched for a job in over a decade:

1. Update Your Resume
The resume that you created 20 years ago when you landed your first
job isn’t going to work for you today. No one isn’t using that old word 
processor anyone – except for your grandma who is still trying to 
write letters to all of her grandchildren in college. 

You need to evolve with the times; employers are seeking someone 
with a set of skills that will allow the company to be quicker and 
more efficient. Look at the job description and find out what skills 
the employer values. Update your resume with new software 
and programs that are popular in your industry. If you’re 
applying for an accounting position, knowing Quickbooks Pro 
Advisor, Peachtree Fixed Asset, and Infusionsoft may come in 

2. Get Connected on LinkedIn 
If you are digitally insecure, you probably don’t have a LinkedIn 
profile, which is causing you to miss out on incredible connections 
and opportunities. LinkedIn is the 21st century resume that 
recruiters are using to scout their next team of employees
You are doing yourself a huge disservice if you are not marketing 
your experience on this network. 
When you get the chance or when you really feel that you deserve the 
job of your dreams, set up a LinkedIn account. Update your 
professional headline, work experience, photo, and connections. 

3. Be Humble and Open to New Opportunities 
If you have worked for a certain company or in a certain industry for 
a number of years, you probably can’t remember the last time that 
you really had to sell yourself. No, you don’t have to go around 
flaunting about your accomplishments to everyone you meet. 
Cockiness is a turnoff.

Here’s what you do instead: get in touch with your most 
attractive career features and display a high willingness to 
learn. This will increase your attractiveness in the marketplace. 
Don’t forget to document all of the best practices you’ve learned in 
your industry. An employer may open a special role for you to use 
your knowledge to serve as a trainer or advisor to the new generation 
of workers.

Learn more about Charlene via her website at www.charlenerhinehart.com and follow her on Twitter @careergoddess