Monday, February 12, 2018

The Business of Balancing, Begins Within! by Dr. Jacquie Hood Martin, PhD

Life, business and the entire balancing act can become strained when we stop paying attention to what matters. We pay attention to the details of soap operas, television dramas, the news, and even the foolishness that occurs in the communities around us. However, when we focus on what is happening in our own lives, we can see our way through and toward the breakthroughs we seek. When individuals pay closer attention to the happenings in their own lives, they open a new path to thinking, reflecting, and responding. As this happens we tune in to what we need to accomplish the most, what we worry about the most, and what we desire to attain and acquire the most.

All of these levels of attainment can bring about worrisome behavior. However,  its not uncommon to worry. But, what is bothersome is that few ever put their hand and heart to the plow to work out what needs to be hammered out to deal with the behavior and find balance. Why? Because it hurts, its painful, its detailed-oriented, it pushes us to deal with areas of personal and professional conflict that we would just rather not deal with at all!

As you grow in your understanding of self and your place in the grand scheme of life, consider the following tips to help you create balance:

1. Awareness – As much as we dislike seeing with open eyes, the only way we can truly know what effects us, why we are bothered by certain things, and how to overcome them, is to be aware of what makes us tick, as well as, fly off the handle. You must get control of your triggers related to your personal revealed and un-healed experiences.

2. Acceptance – One of the tools to put in your toolbox is that you must accept all of your past. You may not like it, but it is part of what makes you unique. It is also the quality that gives you the strength to heal and move forward in a positive and productive manner.

3. Accountable – I am by nature a control freak! I am learning to deal with my triggers by having people who will hold me accountable to doing too much. During the course of my healing and revealing experiences, I discovered the need to have people around me to whom I could be accountable. God has tamed the beast in me and has strategically placed people in my life who help me keep it in check. Who is helping you with your triggers?

4. Appreciation – A healthy appreciation, for who I am flaws and all, gives me the balance needed to see my situations from a realistic perspective. You must learn to appreciate yourself, feel worthy of love, and let some happy in your life. When you treat yourself well, you demand the same from others.

5. Ascend – All of the qualities you need to excel are within you. As you heal, which comes from the removal of drama and addressing your concerns about what you learn, then you will see clearly how to press on. Learning to press forward will cause you to rise to all occasions.


There are many things in life which will happen, that are beyond our control. And, having the requisite skill set and coping ability will help maintain a sense of reasonableness when dealing with the unforeseen. As we grow in our roles as moms, daughters, spouses, bosses...we must be open to avenues that can propel us rather than hinder us. We must be equally willing to give ourselves permission to grow into our true self. A self that will emerge when are able to balance. And, we also must be willing to make a change. Yet, we all know how some of us react to sudden and quick change! Be gentle with yourself. Be patient with yourself. Be good to yourself!

To find out more about Dr. Jacquie Hood Martin, visit her at:
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