Saturday, February 10, 2018

High-Achieving Women: Effective Salary Negotiation Skills Are Not Optional by Jacqueline Miller

Despite being educated, experienced and often overqualified, my late husband rarely asked for or negotiated compensation for which he was deserving.

He was a great man, passionate about his career, but like so many others, he grew content with receiving salary increases that by employment market standards, were average at best. He believed his performance would speak for itself and that he would ultimately receive his "just due,"  As a general practice, this is often thought to be the mindset of women in business, not men.

It took several years of disappointing annual salary reviews before he realized that the “squeaky wheel does, in fact, gets the oil.” He eventually welcomed my often-offered, never-accepted advice and applied the negotiating skills and knowledge that I was more than willing to provide.

15+ years of human resources executive experience afforded me not only the knowledge of assisting others in this arena but applying it in my own career negotiations.

He subsequently successfully marketed himself, sought new and challenging employment opportunities and together we negotiated the most lucrative compensation package of his career.

Sadly, he died suddenly one year later and didn’t enjoy the full experience of reaping the rewards of what was long overdue, or fully demonstrating why he was more than worthy of them.

Words of wisdom: Don’t let that happen to you. One way women can become more proactive in closing the gender wage gap is by learning strategies to better negotiate for equal pay. It behooves all high-achieving women to become empowered to advocate for themselves when it comes to salary, benefits, and promotions.

1. Ask for what you expect and what you are worthy of now vs. later.

2. Possess and regularly updateyour list of measurable contributions and accomplishments. Be prepared to present them during the negotiation process.

3. Know your worth, whether you are an entrepreneur or employed by someone else.

4. Stop undervaluing and discounting your worth and your services (do your research) and certainly stop leaving money on the table.

5. Negotiate confidently and efficiently to garner the most favorable results. Work with a professional in the area of salary negotiations if this is not one of your areas of strength.

Do these things (and more, if necessary) not just for you, but to create generational wealth for your loved ones. Settling for mediocre, rather than mastering the art of salary negotiation when you are leading with excellence should not be an option.

Lastly, resist the temptation to procrastinate. As I have witnessed firsthand, tomorrow is not guaranteed, nor promised to anyone.

To find out more about Jacqueline Miller, visit her at Twitter: @mogulmomdujour

Friday, February 9, 2018

Why Wait for Happiness? By "BOSS Influencer" Yvette Gavin


Most of us believe in happiness or at least in the theory of its overflowing joy and ever-filling peace in our lives. If we’re not experiencing happiness in the present, we like to think that it’s waiting on us somewhere in the future. If we could just make it to retirement or into the new year, happiness will meet us there. If we could land a higher paying job, if we had a better boss, if we could drop the weight, or if we were married; happiness would be possible.  

For too many people, happiness is possible … if only. In one of my recent Career Masterminds a participant said, “I can’t be happy when I’m working for a jerk.” That statement alone got me thinking about the countless times I’ve heard others align their level of happiness with current circumstances. Why do we allow our circumstances to determine our happiness as if our lives were a mathematical if/ then equation?

It was Anne Frank who said, “We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.” Our definition of happy is most likely to be all different too; nevertheless, I like using the dictionary’s description of happy which is---the feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.

In his book, Happier, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar said, “We can experience sadness at times and still enjoy overall happiness.” Happiness, I believe, is not something experienced in the absence of challenging times but something we experience in spite of difficult times. It’s the smile that causes your cheeks to rise when your heart is filled with peace that surpasses understanding or is contrary to your reality. Happiness is that sense of divine adventure that pulsates in your soul, even while working for a jerk or sitting in a square, blue cubicle doing work that’ s nowhere near what you desire to be doing. 

Being a person of faith, I believe that there will always be attempts to steal, kill, and destroy my happiness but I choose to focus on the fact that I can and should live life to its fullness … not waiting for life’s “if” to be happy. When you wait on happiness by looking at if and when life changes, you put your life in the hands of others. This, I believe, is a trick to keep you focused on what’s wrong in life so that you become blind to what is good in your life. Instead of waiting on if to happen to find happiness, make a decision to live a life of fullness today. Dr. Ben-Shahar says, “you can learn to be happy by opening your heart and mind to happier ideas and you’ll feel more fulfilled, more connected …and yes, Happier.” Here’s a few tips to get you started:

1. Passion – Routinely do things you’re passionate about
2. Quiet Time -Spend time alone with the purpose of listening within. If you’re not sure about your passion, this is a great place to start figuring it out
3. Gratitude Journey – Keeping a record of what you’re thankful and grateful for heals the soul
4. Sleep – Getting rest is essential for good mental health
5. Personal Growth – Invest in your personal growth by prioritizing time to learn and growth

What would you add to this list? Share your thoughts in the comment section below and let’s get happier now!

Yvette Gavin is a certified career and personal growth trainer, speaker, and coach. She's happy about adding value to the lives of others.

To find out more about Yvette Gavin, visit her at:

Instagram: @yvette_gavin

Trust the Process! By "BOSS Influencer" Kimberly Jones


For years I went through a wide range of hardships. I was a teen mother, experienced financial hardships, physical and mental abuse, and a number of other issues were going wrong in my life. At times, I couldn't understand why I was in such a dark place. I couldn't understand why I didn't have all the money I wanted to have. I couldn't understand why I was not in a better relationship like I deserved. As I stand before you today, a proud mother of two, executive of a record label, realtor, and an owner of three businesses, I am a witness that these hardships were only building character for who I was destined to be and to fulfill my purpose.
God does not purposely cause problems for us, however, he does allow things to happen that will push us into our destiny. The situations that we think are distracting us or hurting us, only signify that God is trying to shift us into a new season. At times, God will shake things up in our lives to make us uncomfortable in order to move us out of our comfort zone. We make things harder for ourselves because we fight the change. Many times out of fear, we choose to stay in that comfort zone. Hebrews 11:6 says, “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. (KJV)
Your faith is going to be tried. So with that being said, here are some steps that can help you activate your faith and trust the process.
1. You have to make a sound choice not to worry.
You first have to make a conscious effort to trust God. You have to willingly give up and release the situation to God.  By no means will this be easy to do, but the only way to TRUST God will be to genuinely learn how to trust in him.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. ” (Philippians 4:6) (NIV)
2.  You need to continuously maintain control over your feelings.
The battle in your mind is how the devil attempts to separate us from God.  This is when you start to have feelings of fear, worry, and anxiety. When you find yourself being anxious or worrying, you have to remain calm. You have to begin to train yourself how to respond or react during these times according to his will. This is how you learn to be obedient to God's word. Seek him first, and ask for direction.

The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.” 2 Corinthians 10:4” (NIV)

Trusting the process of having faith will definitely be a challenge. Though we may not like it but it is designed to help us break free.  

To find out more about Kimberly Jones, visit her at:
Instagram: @sheboss100

5 Reasons to buy a home in 2018! By "BOSS Influencer" Tammy P. Moore


Tammy Moore” the Diamond Diva” is the only African American shareholder of Diamond Residential Mortgage and owner of Tammy P. Moore & Associates.  She is a licensed mortgage originator in 9 states.  She is a credit repair specialist, conducts seminars and personal coaching sessions to assist her clients with home ownership, credit & financial planning.
If you’ve been on the fence about buying a home vs. renting, you’ve come to the right place.  Start the new year off with a plan to become a homeowner.  Here are a few reasons why you should buy a home in 2018:
  1. Housing Inventory is limited!  A few years ago, there were tons of homes on the market and no buyers, but the tables have turned.  Now there are 10 buyers to 1 home, so negotiations are fierce!  If you see a home you love and can afford jump on it because it won’t last long!

  1. Values are increasing!  As the economy improves home values will increase also, so the home that was priced right for you in the winter time will cost you a few thousand more in the summer months. Don’t let the snow stop you from getting a great deal on your dream home. Act now, your budget will thank you!

  1. Interest rates won’t be low forever! Mortgage rates are scheduled to increase at least 3 times in 2018. They’re predicting the 30-year interest rates may reach 5% by the end of 2018.

  1. Why rent when you can start building equity! If you’re renting, the only return you receive at the end of your lease is your security deposit.  If you purchase a home in 2018 you will start building equity in your home within a years’ time!  Buying a home is like putting money in the bank.  Real Estate is still the best investment around!

  1. You have the freedom of Expression!  We all have our own personal style and you can’t really express that style if your living in someone else’s home.  When you become a home owner you can create your own energy and style!  Make it yours and personalize it to your taste.  If you want to paint the walls pink...go ahead it’s your home! When your friends and family walk in the door of your home it will represent you, not your landlord!
If you’re ready to become a homeowner, call me to get pre-qualified today.  We will walk you through the loan process from contract to closing!  It’s not if you can buy a home…. but when!  I am licensed in 9 states (IL, WI, MI, TX, MO, KY, IN, FL, GA).
Tammy Moore is Division President at Diamond Residential Mortgage, A motivational speaker and Credit and Financial Coach.  In her spare time, she is the Budget Conscious Fashionista, where she teaches Style $ense: How to style your outfit on a budget! Visit her website for fashion tips and a look book of outfits.

To find out more about Tammy P. Moore, visit her at: 

Instagram: @tammypmoore

Thursday, February 8, 2018

LOVE OR MONEY? Is a man who makes less money than you off limits? by Matchmaking Duo

In our virtual “Dating Class for Women Of Power, this is such a popular topic that almost always needs to be explored. The goal here is to encourage you to think about how flexible you are when it comes to LOVE OR MONEY? Whether your answer is NO you could never date someone who makes less than you or it’s a resounding YES, here are a few thought-provoking nuggets we’ve uncovered to help you make your decision:
Don’t let the paycheck fool you - A man who makes 6 figures and up, depending on where he lives in the country, his spending habits, expenses, and outlook on money can be more broke than a man who makes $50k, is generous, and knows how to manage his finances. So don’t just stop at the amount you see coming in. It’s more about what happens from there that speaks to how much he has to work with and the amount he can contribute. Just remember the more money he makes, the more bills he has.
Does he have “grindability”? – That’s right, this technically is not a real word. But you get our drift. Have you ever known a man who once had it all; a great job, house, cars, etc. then was suddenly downsized or let go and since the job was his entire identity, he was totally lost? The point here is, whether he makes a lot of money or not as much, it’s so important to assess his ability to bounce back and rebound when unexpected life circumstances come his way. For some men, it doesn’t matter if he’s at his job today or let go tomorrow, he will always make it happen and rise to the top.
What is important to you in a relationship? – For some, it may be that he has the ability to travel the world with you or represent you well with interesting conversations at work functions or maybe just look good in a suit on your arm. For others, having someone who loves you unconditionally, takes the lead, and a God-fearing man who puts family first may be at the top of your list. There is no wrong answer here but see where his salary fits into the equation.
He can still take the lead if you allow him to - If you want a traditional relationship where the man takes the lead (yes some women still do), it’s still possible if you make more money than he does. But it’s all in your posture and whether YOU can allow him the opportunity. Women who have had successful relationships with this model have said that they make it point to give him verbal praise for his contribution and also consider their man’s opinion when they make large purchasing decisions, etc.
Our ultimate goal is to encourage you to have these discussions with yourself first even as you await your new Beau or even if you’re married to someone who makes less to evaluate where you stand and what’s truly important to you. Something to ponder…
We’re Rooting for You…Here’s to LOVE!

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Monday, February 5, 2018

If You're Not Creative Your Business Will Fail By Alexie Young

I teach people how to paint and I surprisingly run into so many people who say, “I’m not creative at all!” They’re almost afraid to smear paint on the canvas because they have affirmed that they aren’t creative. I find myself asking them, how did they choose their outfit or how to they plan their trip to the art studio? Let’s redefine what creative is! It’s especially important for entrepreneur to proclaim ourselves creative! After all, creativity is involved in the basis of how we decide to live out an experience.

At an early age, most of us expressed creativity freely without constraint. As 7 year olds, we would stay true to our original thoughts and spoke our minds without filters. We would let our request be known without limitations. We figured out ways to express ourselves fully. How bold we once were? What’s changed? As we outgrew demanding dispositions, we also shed some of our creative spirit to simply do what is now accepted and what is safe! 

While some of us may believe that being creative is all about holding a paintbrush at a precise angle, creativity is more than that. Creativity is what we use to pay that unexpected bill. It’s what helps you move through life when logistics don’t work, furthermore, it sets you apart from the pact in such a divine way. That creative power is the driving force of your success. Are you utilizing the full capacity of your creative power or are you playing everything safe?

Now consider some things that you could do to exercise your creative power. Remember that manifesting creative power is all about how we decide to live out our experiences. 

1. Take a small risk like changing something that is usually predictable about you.
This upgrades your troubleshooting skills and gets you out of your own box.

2. Get a mentor, a coach, or a teacher. They are master navigators and can help you bypass certain entrepreneurial hurdles.

3. Your tribe should reflect your vibe! Build out your network and create high quality connections through The BOSS Network.
The more inspiration you can draw from, the more you can fine tune your business.

4. Go to new places, meet new people, do new activities! Try a solo date
sometimes! This helps you create new experiences even if you're
uncomfortable or afraid.

5. Invest in your development, and expand on your talents. If you do something well, learn how to do it more efficiently

The point here is that when you practice life changing activities on a small scale, they are bound to impact the bigger picture. If you can expand your network and stretch your capacity for more experiences, you can increase your ability to be creative essentially by creating new opportunities for yourself and new perspectives on how you can serve your clients in a memorable way! Now that’s creative power!

Learn more about Alexie Young via her website at and follow her on Twitter@invizioncolorz

Sunday, February 4, 2018

Is there enough room for 2 dreams in a relationship or only 1? by Corvet Williams

I want to turn up the volume on this topic because I don’t think its discussed enough. Many women are struggling with this matter and can use some healthy advice.  I wrote this for those who are entrepreneurs and those with an entrepreneur spirit in a relationship where one person is more established and climbing the ladder of success while the other person is not there yet.

I recently had a conversation with a friend on this topic and how some people feel as though there is only room for one dream in a relationship. I totally understand this topic where I am today, the five years ago Corvet would have a different perspective. Here are the reasons why. When I began my relationship I was still establishing my business, he was already established but needed my experience to organize the business. It was a true fight and struggle for me at first, switching my focus from my business. I realized over time that his business was more financially stable and didn’t fluctuate the way my business was at the time. As time went on, I figured out how to complement the two so I could still do me and work with him.

Second, I didn’t have children five years ago. Now I have a child of my own and step children. This changes the dynamics of how time and money are budgeted. As an entrepreneur, regardless of your relationship status, once your responsibilities change your financial priorities change as well. As the saying goes “It takes money to make money.” When I began my entrepreneur journey as an inventor, I spent 20k just “figuring it out.” Today, there is NO WAY I could afford to make such expensive mistakes. Even though it paid off for me now because I am paid to teach others to do that same process in less time and at a fraction of the cost.

I say all of that to ask, where are you in your process? Are you already established? Are you in the thick of things or just starting out? Where is your mate in their career? Some couples choose to take turns and let one person go to school while the other works. In some cases, one person has to help the other continue to grow their business that’s already established.

I can say this, I think it is BEST (note: there isn’t a right or wrong) to be established before having a family and maybe even a relationship so that who you are and what you do is not compromised for another’s dream or for the sake of stability.

Let’s keep the conversation going. This for sure isn’t the only way to do this and I want us to be transparent about what our paths were to give motivation to one another to realize their dreams in love. Cheers to entrepreneurship, dreams and love. Happy Black History Month and Valentine’s Day!

Learn more about Corvete Williams, visit her at: 
Twitter: corvet