Wednesday, April 10, 2019

It’s A Time to Heal through Forgiveness Now by Jena Bell

In my book, Mirror Affirmations, I spend time talking about the mind and how it ultimately serves as the navigational tool for our lives. It is the control center for our emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and actions. I like to look at it as the GPS of the navigational system of life. See the soul provides the roadmap that we should follow, the guidelines and sets the topography of the landscape. The landscape is influenced by the source that is downloaded from our spiritual beliefs and soul rendering. The soul then supplies the language that the heart speaks. But the mind then controls the actions and even the interpretation of the language that the heart speaks. So when we do not control our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, we find our actions out of alignment with our soul’s purpose.

To truly become that woman in the mirror who is standing strong in her purpose, we must begin to heal our emotional wounds which impact our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. That healing begins with forgiveness.

Defining Forgiveness

If you look at a formal definition of forgiveness, you will see something like this:

Stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.

To forgive means you now have given yourself permission to accept the situation as it happened and to move on with your life. While you may not like the situation, you really have no choice but to accept that it happened. No matter what happens from this point forward, whatever happened in the past is a done deal. There is no way to “undo” it. The betrayal can’t be undone. The act can’t be undone, and the words can’t be taken back.

This is not to say that the pain from the situation is not real. It is very real and very painful. This is not to say that you agree with what happened or that you are letting them “get away with it.” Extending forgiveness does not mean that you are weak. It’s exactly the opposite. I love this quote from Mahatma Gandhi, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

Because it says forgiveness is not about them, it is about you. It is about allowing yourself the freedom to live your life without bitterness. Forgiveness allows you to stop the cycle of abuse.

When you forgive, you give yourself permission to heal. You get off the emotional roller-coaster and allow yourself to move forward.

We don't always know what God has in store for us or see beyond the circumstances. So, when negative situations happen, that's when our faith comes in and we have to trust God. As one of my favorite scriptures says:

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Romans 8:28 (KJV)

Allowing yourself to heal through the act of forgiveness is giving yourself permission to navigate life purposefully with intention so others experience your greatness freely. Put it in action now, by affirming “I forgive….now. I surrender to my new beginning.”

Jena L Bell, Author, Mirror Affirmations, International Speaker and Founder, Purpose on the Rise and Pathways to Abundance. I can be reached at Twitter @jenalbell

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