Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Are you suffering from Superwoman Syndrome? By BOSS Member Jenny Garrett


Sound familiar?

Being the banker, cleaner, cook, counsellor, event organiser and that’s just inside the home.

Juggling attending school events, replying to letters and participating in the parents association while also holding down a full time job.

Having an almighty schedule that incorporates work engagements, children’s parties and activities as well as hospital appointments for older relatives.

Feeling stressed, exhausted and sometimes burdened by it all, but not letting anyone else help you.
If so, you like so many women I meet are likely to be suffering from Superwoman Syndrome.
I see women falling foul of the syndrome on a daily basis. These superwomen strap on their cape of invulnerability every morning, thinking that no one will notice it fraying, but unaddressed the thread begins to unravel, leading to problems with physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing, not to mention the negative impact on relationships and work performance. 

‘I might as well do it myself as no one can do it as well as me,’ ‘I have a handle on it all’ and ‘if I have to stay up until midnight catching up on my work so that I can attend musical theatre practice it’s worth it’ are the familiar mantras echoed by women suffering from the symptoms.

As women, our ability to ‘do it all’ is a common myth that I think we perpetuate - just like the one that supermodels don’t have cellulite... right!

Even worse, the more you do, the less that others feel the need to, so ultimately you are making things harder for yourself.
Listen and listen carefully, it’s OK not to be able to do it all.
Repeat after me, it’s OK not to be able to do it all.
Now say it out loud, it’s OK not to do be able to do it all.
So, how do you rid yourself of Superwoman Syndrome?

Jenny Garrett, author of Rocking Your Role: the ‘how to’ guide to success for female breadwinners, provides some practical tips:

1. Let go of the reigns

Create opportunities for others to take control and be relaxed about the outcome, you may even learn something. Maybe a slightly different routine could be helpful?

2. Give yourself permission not to do things

Ease up on your expectations of yourself and others; is it the end of the world if you don’t have a roast dinner on the table every night?

3. Contract out 

Even if it’s only once a year, invest in help to free up some personal quality time. Contract out tasks such as gardening, cleaning, or ironing services.

4. Create space

Stop, reflect and notice your behaviour, what’s helpful and what’s not? Whether it’s a 15 minute walk, meditation, a session with an executive coach, or a stint in a floatation tank; creating space and time to think and just be are essential to nourish your body and mind.

I’ve laid down my cape, will you?

Find out more about Jenny’s book Rocking Your Role http://rockingyourrole.com

Monday, September 17, 2012

Special "Sistahhood for Breast Cancer" Event Featuring BOSS Founder Cameka Smith


Special "Sistahhood for Breast Cancer" Event

Conference at the Embassy Suites Deerfield
October 19 - 20, 2012
Hosted By: Rhonda Thomas

Bring a friend, bring a sister, come out and enjoy a sistahood bonding of fun for a great cause at this two day event. You will learn strategies to achieve your highest and healthiest goals.                                                                  
  • Friday, October 19th
    • Workshops are scheduled from 02:00 PM - 05:30 PM            
  • Saturday, October 20th
    • Workshops are scheduled from 09:00 AM - 03:00 PM
Some of the workshops to be offered:                      
1.      Five Simple Strategies towards a Healthier YOU Now!                             
2.      20th Century Parents living in a 21st Century World
3.      Seven Ways in Seven Days to Change Your Life
4.      Are You Prepared to Finance Your Childs College Choices?

Be a Mentor, Be a Leader, Be a Boss
6.      Special guest speakers on Taking a Stand Against Cancer!
and More!!!!!!

Register Today & Save!!
Check out Special Events on the website

*Portions of the proceeds will be distributed to several Breast Cancer Awareness organizations